A Baby in Heaven

This is the first article I ever published (please excuse the formatting, which didn’t mesh well when plugged into WordPress), stemming from a life-changing event in 1999.  God works all things together for good…the pain of this got me writing. ~Diane



As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.

Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them Psalm 127:4,5a


Miscarriages and still births are a common occurrence in this world of ours.  After you have “entered the arena” you soon discover just how many others have shared the experience.  But however “common” it is, it is never common when it happens to you. Although the death of my baby was a tremendous loss, I know exactly where he is; he is not “lost”.  He is in the care of my heavenly Father, in God’s “quiver”, and I will see him again.  I write this to give hope and comfort to others who find themselves presented with this same challenge to their faith.


Was “It” a Baby?

I was about 12 weeks along when we were given the news that our baby had no heartbeat.  On the heels of this, the doctor began to present options for “how to get rid of it”…even while I was still able to see the picture of our tiny baby on the ultrasound monitor.  At that point, I was not ready to consider options-I did not want to choose any of them.  I wanted to keep my baby. You see, unbelieving medical professionals have a primarily clinical perspective in the event of a miscarriage or still birth, and they often refuse to acknowledge that the mother’s loss was anything more than a formation of tissue. Forgive them, and know that God views this quite differently:

 “For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. ‘Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.” Psalm 139:13-16


This is a comforting passage of scripture to a bereaved mother.  God knows us intimately, even before our birth.  He recognizes us as His creation, a human being, before anyone else has ever met us.  He also has a specific plan for our lives from the very start (Gen. 25:23; Judges 13:5; Isaiah 49:1; Jeremiah 1:5).  Was this tiny little one, at twelve weeks, four weeks, even at one week, a baby?  God says yes.

Is My Baby in Heaven?  Will I See My Baby Again?

The Bible tells us that we are born in sin:

Psalm 51:5  “Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.”


A tiny baby is innocent with regard to his never having committed a sinful act; however, every one of us is born with a tainted human nature, a “want to” to do wrong things-our inheritance from our ancestors, Adam and Eve:


Romans 5:12 “Wherefore, as by one man [Adam] sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned”


We cannot enter Heaven in this sinful state, but God has made it possible for us through His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ:

Romans 6:23 “For the wages of sin is death [eternal separation from God]; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

John 1:12 “But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name”.

Each of us is given the opportunity to choose to accept the sacrifice of the Lord Jesus on the cross to take away our sins.  It is a “gift”, which must be accepted personally.  This implies that a person must be mature enough to understand and apply these truths. Your little one had not yet reached this point which is known as the “age of accountability”.  We find this idea addressed by David, with regard to the death of Bath-sheba’s newborn child:


“Then said his servants unto him, What thing is this that thou hast done? Thou didst fast and weep for the child, while it was alive; but when the child was dead, thou didst rise and eat bread.  And he said, While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether GOD will be gracious to me, that the child may live? But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast?  Can I bring him back again?  I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.”  

II Sam. 12:21-23


In this final sentence, David says that he will “go to” or be with his child one day, although the child cannot return to him (here on earth).  He will go to be with the child in Heaven when God determines that his days on earth are finished.


It is possible to be reunited with such little ones as these.  I will see my baby again.  I have a friend who has a family of four awaiting her arrival.  This, too, is a comfort.  Is your baby in Heaven?  God says yes.


Whether you will see your baby again is determined by what you have done to take care of the sin that separates each of us from God.  We are clearly mature enough to make a choice.  The Bible tells us that none of us is worthy of Heaven (Romans 3:10 “There is none righteous, no, not one”).  We can not earn heaven by any amount of good works (Ephesians 2:8,9 “For by grace are ye saved through faith, and that not of yourselves… not of works, lest any man should boast”). It is not what we DO that saves us, but what has already been DONE by the  Lord Jesus on the cross (Romans 5:8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.)


Will you see your baby again?  God says yes-if you have recognized that you are a sinner-that you can do nothing to save yourself-and that, in admitting this, you turn to the Lord Jesus and personally accept His sacrifice on the cross for your sin.  God says yes.  What’s more, being reunited with your baby is amazingly one of the “smaller” blessings of trusting Christ as our Savior!  When a person is saved he has a sure home in heaven, forgiveness of sin, communion with his heavenly Father, the comfort and guidance of the Holy Spirit, God’s Word which now becomes alive to him…the list goes on and on.  Dear Mother, it is God’s desire that you see your baby again-but most importantly that you have your heart purified so that He can see you, His child, in His heavenly home.

Is It Okay to Grieve?

 Grief is a normal (not ungodly) and expected response when a child precedes his parents in death.  The end of that child’s life (whether he was 3 months or 30 years of age) always seems to be untimely.


Let us consider a child, taken in an untimely and yet perfectly timely fashion.  The child was the beloved son of his father, the delight of his loving mother.  He had an ideal and happy childhood.  When he became a young man, he went about helping others, showing love and kindness to everyone.  He was misunderstood, mocked and one day he was killed by those who had been recipients of his love.  All of this happened with the father knowing all along that his precious, only son would die.


Yes, in this scenario the Father is God Almighty, and the Son is the Lord Jesus.  They both knew from the foundation of the earth that this sacrifice would have to be made…a perfect sacrifice for sin.  Yet when the time came for Jesus to give His life (for it was not taken away from Him, but given freely for us), He asked His Father if there might not be some other way.  His death brought separation from the Father (with whom He had been one from eternity past), for God in His holiness could not look upon the sin His Son would bear…the sin of the whole world.  There was pain, suffering, grief, death, and its consequences.   The disciples were confused by this scene, not yet understanding all that the Lord had taught them regarding His death, burial and resurrection.  Jesus’ mother Mary grieved at the foot of His cross.  Jesus looked upon her heart’s need at this time when she must have felt bewildered and overwhelmed, in spite of her faith.  He showed tenderness toward this woman who had cradled Him-God come in the flesh-years ago, and made certain that she would be cared for in her grief:

  “Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother, and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son! Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home.” John 19:25-27


The Lord Jesus understands your grief and the heartache a mother can experience in the loss of her child.  We can take our sorrow and pain to Him.  Jesus also looked with compassion upon two sisters, Mary and Martha, who mourned the death of their brother, Lazarus.   He wept with them.  Even though Jesus knew that He would raise their brother from the dead, He still mourned with these ladies because of the effect that his death had upon their lives.  Grief can be a godly emotional response.


The wonderful thing about all of this is that the Savior was not conquered by death-He was victorious over it, being raised from the grave. His resurrection from the dead guaranteed for us the ability to live forever as well.  The disciples are no longer bewildered.  Following the resurrection of the Lord Jesus from the tomb, they pursued their gospel-carrying ministry with great fervor and confidence.  They are now with the Lord in Heaven.  Mary has been reunited with her Son as well.  She now sees Him in all of His majesty and glory.


The pain is gone, for:

“…God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.” Revelation 21:4

What a glorious promise!  As a believer, one can cling to this and know that the future holds nothing but joy.  You may not feel joyful today; but scriptural truths are not ratified by our feelings.


“Thou hast turned for me my mourning into dancing: thou hast put off my sackcloth, and girded me with gladness;” Psalm 30:11


Why Don’t Others Understand My Grief?

 It is important to understand a few things before evaluating the reactions (or lack thereof) of others.  Some individuals simply do not know what to say.  I used to be in this category.  Now that I know what it is like to go through this trial, I look back and wish I had done more for my friends who have previously traveled this road.  I wish I had at least had the courage to pay a visit and offer a hug, even if I had no words of wisdom.  Giving counsel is a good thing, but just a simple embrace and shared tears are precious to grieving parents.


There are others who do not acknowledge the need to grieve because “it wasn’t a baby anyway” (but we know better), and especially if you were not very far along.  (Remember that the duration of your pregnancy-whether it was a few weeks, a few months, or full term-this does not determine the validity of your right to grieve…your motherhood does.)  It is hard for them to understand that a future had already been attached to your child.  You may have just begun picking names, or choosing a theme for your nursery.  Your baby had begun to take a tiny foothold in your life very soon after you discovered him or her.


If you have other children, it may be hard for others to understand why this does not seem to lessen your disappointment.  If you are young and in good health, the prospect of “trying again” should take your grief away.  “Children are part of an equation, and one can replace another”, they seem to be saying.  It is hard to be gracious sometimes in our responses.  But try-and learn.


I would like to say that those who have not carried a “technical” pregnancy-having another condition that created the semblance of pregnancy-these parents deal with grief as well.  In their hearts, this was a child, and their disappointment is very real.

What About Dad?

It is not just the mother who feels the loss.  The father is emotionally affected as well, though differently perhaps.  Do not assume that your mate does not feel pain in this.  He is probably busy trying to be strong for you.


The wisest advice I can offer is that you need to make provision in your schedule for some quiet time together (no distractions, no audiences) so that you can talk, cry and pray together.  Someone watched our little girl for us so that we could have an opportunity to do this, and it was a big step in our healing process as a couple.

Your Post-partum Experience

Another thing concerning the healing process-generally it does not seem to be the wise thing to do a massive “housecleaning” upon receiving your news.  By this I mean returning all the new maternity clothes, putting away all the baby things-getting rid of everything that reminds you of your baby.  You have spent time growing into a mother’s mindset (and body).  It is not a healthful thing to withdraw yourself abruptly from it.  Allow yourself time to repair and heal emotionally as well.  Close the door to the nursery until you are better prepared.  Your spiritual and emotional strength needs to be bolstered as well as your physical strength.


God has designed our bodies wonderfully.  Do not resent your post-partum experience, however limited it may be.  This is God’s way of allowing you time to get used to your new set of circumstances.  Your mind and emotions need time to return to their pre-pregnancy state as well as your body.


Guarding Your Mind

A mother’s heart and mind are particularly susceptible to temptation in the recent weeks following the loss of a child.  It is very important to remember that our minds are just as fallen as our flesh is.  Satan may try to attack you on this battlefront with questions such as “Was this my fault?”  “Does God love me?” “Is this a judgement from God?” “What if I had only….?”  Our adversary can be ruthless and cunning.  He knows our weaknesses and how to target them when we are most vulnerable.  Solomon said in Proverbs, “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding” (3:5).  Why?  The Bible has much to say regarding the natural state of man’s mind:

  • Eph:2:3: Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the children of wrath, even as others
  • Ti:1:15: Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled.
  • Mt:15:19: For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:
  • Mk:7:21: For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders,
  • 1Cor:3:20: And again, The Lord knoweth the thoughts of the wise, that they are vain.
  • Col:1:21: And you, that were sometime alienated and enemies in your mind by wicked works, yet now hath he reconciled

Because our minds are tainted by our sin nature, we must constantly be on guard.  The way we think is like a car that is out of alignment.  In order to keep the vehicle on it’s course, we must use our physical energy to keep the wheel turned to compensate for the error.  Release the wheel, and the car takes it’s natural course-into the nearest ditch, or worse!  In the same way, we must work to keep our minds going God’s way.  If we let up, our thoughts will stray in an ungodly direction-depression, bitterness, anger, or worse.


Paul put it this way:

“Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus…And be renewed in the spirit of your mind…For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind… Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ…And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. 

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.”(Philippians 2:5; Ephesians 4:23; 2Timothy 1:7; 1 Peter 1:13; Romans 12:2; Hebrews 4:12.)

Dealing with the loss of a child is a tremendous physical and spiritual challenge.   It is a great emotional challenge as well.  Without question, it is the most difficult thing I have ever experienced in every way.  When we are faced with something that reaches into the depth of our hearts we must be prepared to act and react rationally.  Rarely, if ever, is a purely emotional response a biblically correct one.

Fire Drills

When I was in college, we had periodic fire drills.  At times they were at a most inconvenient hour of the day (or night).  What was the purpose in them?  Primarily to ingrain a plan of action into our minds, so that in the event of the emergency (when we are given over to emotional responses) we could lean upon what we knew from rote.  Those practices were designed to give us a rational course of action, ready-made.  God gave us His Word so that when we find ourselves in such a situation we can lean upon what we know of Him instead of relying upon our feelings (which are fickle).  Solomon wrote,

“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.” (Proverbs 3:5,6)

What can we know about God that can help us in a time of testing or temptation?

1. God made us

“For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. ‘Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.” Psalm 139:13-16


We have spent some time already, establishing that God is the Author of life-however long or short it may be.  In the Old Testament book of Isaiah, God is called our Potter.  A crafter designs a bowl or vase or cup with a function in mind.  What will make this cup comfortable for the hand to hold?  What design will give it the right balance so that it will not topple?  What glaze would make it a popular choice out of all those on the market shelf?  The potter has a vision for that vessel, and God has a vision for us as individuals as well.


2. God has a plan for us

 “Behold, I go forward, but he is not there; and backward, but I cannot perceive him: On the left hand, where he doth work, but I cannot behold him: he hideth himself on the right hand, that I cannot see him: But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold.” Job 23:8-10

You may be familiar with the story of the man named Job.  In a very short span of time, he was stripped of his home, all of his worldly goods, his family (his children were killed and his wife turned from him).  Who of us can say we know what this type of suffering is like?  Yet, in the midst of it all, and even though Job was having difficulty “seeing” God in all that had befallen him, Job knew God had a purpose in what he had experienced.

Trusting God

How can a person arrive at such a conclusion instead of turning from God, denying God’s goodness or at least God’s interest in his life?  The reason is that Job saw that God is trustworthy.  We know of Job that the Bible describes Job as “perfect and upright, and one that feared God, and eschewed evil.” (Job 1:1)  This man had a close walk with God.  That is, he made an effort to know and fear (having a reverential awe) of God, and this caused him to want to live an upright life.  God already knows us perfectly, but we must make an effort to know Him.  Think of this…who is it that you trust in the daily workings of your life?  You place your trust in those whom you know, and the more you become acquainted with their values, habits, etc., the more you confide in and are apt to rely upon them.  This growing type of trust caused Job to say of God, Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: (Job 13:15)


God sees the “big picture” Nothing happens by chance to the person who trusts in God.  He is omniscient (all-knowing), and nothing comes to Him as a surprise.   A young man named Joseph came to this realization.  He was his father’s favorite child, and because of this he was despised by his siblings.  They concocted a plan that resulted in Joseph’s being sold into Egypt as a slave.  Joseph was later imprisoned and forgotten there.  But one day everything changed.  He found favor in the eyes of Pharaoh and was elevated to the second highest position of authority in the country.  Some years later he was able to keep his family (including the brothers who had treated him so wickedly) from perishing during a famine because of his position.  This is what Joseph said to his brothers:

But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive. Gen. 50:20

Why My Baby?

We are not permitted to know the “why” of many or most of life’s trials.  I have heard people say after their loss of a child that they had prayed God would “take” any child of theirs who would not grow up to love and please Him.  Perhaps this was indeed God’s reason for taking their little one to be with Him so soon, and everyone involved has been spared a great deal of heartache.  In exchange they have been given an untainted and joyous reunion to look forward to.  I have chosen, however, to look at this in a more positive way-there are some individuals whose earthly lives are shortened (as toddlers, teens or young adults) for no “good reason” that we can see.


Although God does not “need” any of us, man was created to have fellowship with Him.  Unfortunately, our sin hinders us in this earthly life from the worship and type of closeness that God truly desires.  Although he was born a sinner like the rest of us, our baby’s first conscious efforts to bring praise to God have had no contamination from the flesh upon them.  Robert Murray McCheyne once wrote, “When I see Thee as Thou art, love Thee with unsinning heart-Then, Lord, shall I fully know, not ’til then how much I owe.”  Our baby did not have to experience this struggle that we encounter daily.  His first acts, words, thoughts of devotion have been unsullied by the selfish motives, insincerity and complacency that often typify ours.  I envy him in this and I can’t wait to ask him what it was like.  This is a supreme comfort to me.


Finding Answers

There may have been a genuine biological cause for what you have experienced.  It is a needful thing to consult with your physician regarding this possibility.  Consult him or her also about the wisdom of having a “D & C” (a process whereby the baby and all related tissue from the pregnancy are manually removed) as opposed to letting your body go naturally through the labor process.  We chose to do the latter, on the advice of our family doctor, who is a Christian.  He stated that our bodies are designed by God to do this in such circumstances and it is the best thing to let “nature take it’s course”(barring any unusual particulars).  Admittedly, the hospital procedure is quicker and less taxing emotionally (going through labor is painful physically and is compounded by the emotional pain of having no baby to hold when it is finished); but it seems the natural route is a healthier one.  The D & C process can also produce scarring that can cause difficulty in conceiving later.


Beyond the tangible option of some physical complication, we can surmise many things about God’s purposes in the termination of a pregnancy.  We must trust and let God be God.  Joseph had the unique experience of having revealed to him, at least in part, God’s ultimate design in the series of trials with which he was presented.  This is very much the exception.  We cannot and do not dare to demand an explanation from our trustworthy and loving heavenly Father. Is it difficult for you to see how your situation could be “good”? Then, let us consider that–


3. God wants the best for us

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son…” (Romans 8:28,29a)

The first part of this portion of scripture is often misused.  People interpret it to say that the “for good” in verse 28 means whatever it is they want in their lives.  The following verse is often omitted.  The “good” that God wishes to accomplish in us is that we might be “conformed to the image of His Son.”  Job said “when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold.” I have heard it said that a refiner who purifies gold heats it and stirs it and skims it (a time consuming process) until it is so pure that he no longer sees the dross on the surface, but he instead sees his own reflection.  Isn’t this a beautiful picture of this same idea?


Loving Means Trusting

God works all things (not just some, mind you) together for good for  those who love Him.  What does it mean to love God?

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth:

(I Cor. 13:4-8a)

This is a fine definition of love.  Have you ever had someone accuse a loved one of yours?  Particularly if it concerns an offense against you?  You begin to think in exclamation points-“Impossible!  They would never dream of doing such a thing!  To deliberately set out to injure me-unthinkable!  I cannot even begin to imagine it!”  We become the she-bear in defense of that cherished one.  We think no evil about them…we hope all things concerning their innocence.

Do we not owe even more devotion to the One who has a much more particular interest in our lives?  Jesus said,

Are not two sparrows sold for a farthing? and one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father.   Fear ye not therefore, ye are of more value than many sparrows. 

(Matt. 10:29,31)

And again,

Are not five sparrows sold for two farthings, and not one of them is forgotten before God? But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows. (Luke 12:6,7)

Have you noticed a discrepancy in the transaction of these little birds?  It would seem in the latter passage that another sparrow was thrown into the bargain.  Most of us do not give a second thought to the sighting of one of these nondescript little creatures, and yet God is mindful of even this “odd sparrow”.   He cares for us so much more…therefore, “Fear not.”


“Homework” for the Heart

Know that God is mindful of your heart’s needs at this time.  Allow Him to reach out to you through His Word in private study as well as in the public preaching services you attend.  Permit yourself to need the other members of the body of Christ.  They are designed to complete you in your weakness.  Look for an opportunity to use your experience “for good”-there may be someone very nearby who can benefit from what you have been learning.  This can be wonderfully therapeutic and help you to realize a portion of God’s purpose in your life.  Finally, encourage yourself with the fact that your little one is part of God’s quiver, is in the very best of care, and is looking forward a very precious reunion one day.

13 thoughts on “A Baby in Heaven

  1. amazing…can’t even put into words my thoughts, emotions, impressions of your blog…maybe it seems ..”very holy” is what comes to me…later more wil come. thanks

  2. Hi Rachel,
    Thanks for visiting my blog. I’ll take your comment as a compliment, so long as it is realized that what I share on the blog is also “very human”. I don’t pretend to have a handle on holiness. Mercy. The most recent Sunday Hymnary post is an echo of my own heart. I have many failings. If you have spent any time here, you’ll see that I am very candid with my own personal spiritual struggles as well as offering encouragement and direction. As a believer, I am to “do all to the glory of God” 1 Corinthians 10:31) …my words, thoughts, deeds, meditations, writing. I am mentally composing a post right now on this topic. Keep an eye out. 🙂

  3. Hi Diane, Thank you for putting into words what my husband and I felt. God comforted us wonderfully through our 3 miscarriages. My husband felt the loss just as much as I did. You gave some great advice! 🙂

  4. Trust your blog will be blessed to many – those in need of help at such a time and those in need of salvation too. I chanced upon it while looking for something else and was encouraged by it. God bless you.

  5. Glad you were able to stop by, Natalie. My posts have been few during this school year, but I hope to pick up after May.
    Diane 🙂

  6. I appreciated your gentleness in forgiving well-meaning people who struggle to comfort you. It is always good to remember that what appears to be thoughtlessness is more likely that person’s best attempt to offer comfort. I have 7 children; 3 boys here and 4 children in the arms of Jesus.
    I had been to a funeral for a baby who died shortly after being delivered prior to miscarrying my second child. My dear pastor arranged the gospel accounts of the children coming to Jesus so that you could see the progression: Jesus’ arms welcoming, the children coming to Him, at His feet and then in His arms. It brings me great comfort to think of my babies in Jesus’ arms. I still weep with mixed emotions at this thought. I weep for my loss in the moment and His care for His children’s children.
    My babies would be 12, 10, 6, and 2. My boys are 14, 11, and 4.
    Best Regards.

  7. Hello Diane,
    I came across your site as I was looking up the words to “I Run to Christ”. Thank you for posting those, by the way. I am sorry about your loss that so eloquently shared, and from a transparent heart. I wanted to pass along another resource for families who have lost babies. Hope Mommies was started from loss, but the Lord of all, has proven faithful and good, even in the trials that I can not even imagine. http://www.hopemommies.org

    May you be encouraged as you continue on in your walk and leading others to Christ.

  8. Thanks Diane for this post. My daughter died shortly after her premature birth. I appreciated reading this post. I thank God for giving her to us and that I know she is in Heaven where there is no suffering and where there is joy.

  9. Hi Diane,

    I have six children, three here and three in the arms of Jesus. The last one we lost was particularly painful, due in part to malpractice on the part of the OB and partly due to the lack of love and support from the people we thought were our brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus. We were in Church leadership and yet we found ourselves completely and utterly alone, forced to bury our sweet baby by ourselves, with no one to even pray for us. I’ll never know if it was people being self-absorbed or just complete ignorance on the depth of the pain of losing a baby. We clung to God, and to one another, forgave those that had let us down, and through it all, we grew. I am a Christian counselor and it is helpful to have personal experience to share through. Thank you for your blog. My prayer is that it will help others to understand that they are not alone. God bless you.

  10. I tell my kids that God is always purposeful and never wastes time. I think that goes especially for these painful, inexplicable heartaches. Blessings to you.

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