I feel inclined to encourage some mamas today. Yours is not the child who is referred to as a “good kid”. Your child is “that kid”…the one who is wiggling, talking, distracting, interrupting, seems to have no filter, has occasional passionate outbursts and forgets the social graces. Don’t forget that “that kid” is also the one who loves profusely and fiercely, hugs with gusto, feels with great compassion, sees with a perspective beyond their years, and teaches you to love life with abandon.
There are two sides to every coin. Remember that when you are frustrated with a lack of immediate compliance or feel embarrassed in public. Stay the course. You keep on plugging. Make your goal so much bigger than gaining the approval of others. This is your child, not theirs. He or she is “fearfully and wonderfully made”. There is a reason yet to be realized for the depth of their ardor. This child will not be one to take the path of least resistance. A strong will can manifest as smug defiance–or valiant courage. It’s a matter of the heart. That child who appears to be obediently sitting down on the outside might be rebelliously standing up on the inside.
Goodness knows in the near future we will need people who are willing to speak seemingly recklessly for the sake of the gospel. Who knows how God will choose to use your “wild child”? Eagerly anticipate that while you try to teach manners and comportment and guidelines of communication. Don’t sacrifice their uniqueness. It can be exhausting and conflicting to find the balance when there is pressure to conform and you feel your parenting comes under scrutiny. Scrutinizers and their varied opinions are a dime a dozen. The time you patiently and lovingly invest is precious and of eternal worth. In the midst of the din, woo that child’s heart to the Lord.
“My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.” Prov. 23:26