I recently received an email from a friend (thanks Tricia) that excerpted some conversations on biblical womanhood from the girltalk blog. I found it refreshing, but also acknowledge that this is yet another realm in which Christian women have lowered the bar on being the “peculiar people” they are intended to be.
These ideas will no doubt go against the grain for many women. I’ve said before here on the blog that I feel the door of feminism has swung back to smack “liberated” women in the face. For women to view their role in the home as a great work, and to content themselves in it has become a foreign concept. We need to catch the vision again. We do not find a general mandate for every woman to be a Deborah or an Esther in scripture (although they provide noble examples for us in what God called them to do); but we do find directives for women to be “keepers at home”. These conversations (links below) help modern women to understand what this looks like for our generation.
Here’s how one discussion opens:
“I’m a feminist in remission,” Julie confessed in her email to us. And aren’t we all, by the grace of God?
“Honestly, I still struggle in my role as wife and mother though I’ve lived in it for ten years now. So when I read Carolyn[Mahaney]’s take on the Today Show a few days ago and the new book about sharing the home responsibilities 50/50, I just had a question, or maybe, a dilemma.
I stay at home full time, homeschooling my four children and I do love it. I wouldn’t want to work outside the home even if it was offered to me. But does that really mean that the husband has NO share in the household duties? Does that really mean that he should never wash some dishes, put laundry away, bathe a child, or pick up his own socks? I mean, if stuff needs to be done, should my husband be able to surf the web or watch a game while I tidy up after dinner and get the kids in bed? I guess I’m truly wondering if this is what It means to be a biblical woman? I WANT to be. I want to do my duties without grumbling and complaining. But it’s hard. It’s easy to feel like the maid. So, any words of wisdom in helping me to see this issue clearly and biblically, would be great.”
There was also a portion offered from Carolyn’s book Feminine Appeal. Here is a snip:
“Martin Luther, the man who sparked the Protestant Reformation, once quipped about his wife: “In domestic affairs I defer to Katie. Otherwise I am led by the Holy Ghost.” While facetious, Luther’s comment holds biblical credibility. As wives, we are to be in charge of domestic affairs.
The command in Titus 2 to be “working at home” is further illuminated by 1 Timothy 5:14 where Paul says: “So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander” (emphasis mine).
In the Greek, the phrase “manage their households” carries a strong connotation. It literally means to be the ruler, despot, or master of the house. So we see that “working at home” means we are to function as the home manager—taking full ownership for all the domestic duties of the household.
If you are feeling these struggles as well, here are some great links for your perusal: