I love this new ad campaign by Dockers. No, ladies – it has nothing to do with “wearing slacks” or even culottes (ugh) for that matter. It is not about you. It is about men being men…men growing up, stepping up and taking the leadership.
Well, okay…then this is partly about women after all. Part of this equation is women who encourage men to back off from showing any sort of chivalrous (much less leadership) behavior for fear of getting their toes tromped on…literally. Ladies, it is up to you to reciprocate. In other words, when a man shows you a courtesy, like holding the door for you, don’t toss your nose in the air and tell him you can get it for yourself. Mercy. Someone held the door for me at the post office the other day, and apologized because it was accidentally let go before I could get through. My reply was, “No problem…it is just refreshing to me anymore that someone would even try!”
We have a saying out here: “Cowboy up.” Do the hard thing. Push through. In our society, any man who attempts to “change” (how’s that for being politically correct in an incorrect way?) is going
to be swimming upstream. It has become a hard thing because men are out of practice or altogether unfamiliar with the concept, and because women are antagonistic. The swinging door of “equality” has come back to smack liberated women in the face. Don’t get me wrong. If a woman does the same job as a man, I believe she should be compensated equally. I think it is remarkable that women like Condi Rice can get where they have gotten. Women like Ruth, Esther, and Deborah have demonstrated that it is possible to be brilliant and powerful, while at the same time submissive. I do wonder that there are not more biblical examples provided…but then, we are talking about a difficult balance which goes entirely against human nature. Only uncommon women are able to achieve the balance of lead and follow. Executed correctly, it is a supernatural ability.
I am grateful for my husband. He is manly, even if his runner’s build does not permit him to be “brawny.” He works hard. He’s not afraid of dirt (as an auto tech, he had to use Clorox on his hands to get them clean enough for our wedding photos!). He is not afraid to be unpopular, to speak the truth, to take a stand, or even to cry. He is a gentleman. He makes it easy for me to exercise followship under his leadership.
It’s not about the brand of pants (but thanks, Dockers, for a great ad!)…it is about what brand has been burned into your hide. Who owns you? If your man is wearing the icthus brand, then you emulate Ephesians 5:33, while you do what you can to help him look like Psalm 112…and Philippians 2.
Pray for him, respect him, follow him.